[A note to the reader: This article discusses information about domestic violence, which may activate strong feelings for some individuals. Call Wellspring’s 24-hour hotline at 518-584-8188 if you need to speak with an advocate.]

We partnered with The Scoop Saratoga and the Wellspring Board of Directors to debunk 6 common misconceptions about domestic violence.

Myth #1: Domestic violence is a serious issue, but doesn’t happen in Saratoga County.

THE TRUTH: Domestic violence can happen to anyone anywhere, including in Saratoga County. In fact, domestic violence is one of the top reasons for homelessness in women in our county. We work with clients in our community every day through our hotline, housing programs, emergency shelter, financial empowerment programs, and more.

Board Member: Tom Meaney

Myth #2: Domestic violence only includes physical abuse.






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THE TRUTH: When talking about relationship violence, people often think of the abuse as being physical. This is not always the case, and a lot of the time physical violence doesn’t come into play until there’s already been a pattern of sexual or emotional abuse.

Board Member: Giovanna D’Orazio

Myth #3: Domestic violence is an impulse control or anger management issue.

THE TRUTH: Abuser’s acts are deliberate and are driven by a sense of entitlement as a means to gain power and control over their partner. Abusers choose whom to abuse. For example, an abuser will selectively harm their partner but not their boss.

Board Member: Karen Sosler

Myth #4: If the situation is really that bad, the person would have left their partner.






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THE TRUTH: Leaving an abusive partner is more challenging than you’d think. The person may choose to stay with their abuser if they are financially dependent on them or if they don’t have safe housing to flee to. They may also have children with their abuser or be afraid to leave in general.

Board Member: Dean Kolligian

Myth #5: Older individuals are rarely impacted by relationship abuse.

THE TRUTH: Elder abuse is more common than you think. 1 in 10 individuals over 60 years old have experienced some form of abuse. Domestic violence can affect anyone despite their gender, race, age, economic status or religion.

Board Member: Margaret Roohan

Myth #6: A partner only becomes violent when provoked by the victim.






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THE TRUTH: Regardless of problems that may exist in a relationship, abuse is never justifiable or acceptable. There is absolutely no valid excuse for domestic violence. It is never the victim’s fault.

Board Member: Andi Dolinsky

Wellspring is here to help!

If you or someone you know is affected by relationship or sexual abuse, our advocates are here to help. Call our 24-hour hotline at 518-584-8188 or access our web-based chat to discuss your options with Wellspring. All of our services are completely free, confidential, and non-judgemental.

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