I was just reading Michael James’ blog post Essential Survival Guide for Victims of Domestic Violence. This quick read is a comprehensive checklist for how to increase safety while in the abusive relationship, when leaving and afterwards–basically a roadmap to help you get from wherever you’re starting to where you want to be safely.
What really struck me was the sheer number of factors a domestic violence survivor has to think about… and how each of these steps can emotionally charged, and temporarily upend normal daily life. Michael ended with the assurance “never think you are alone” and gave resources to help a survivor. I’d say read the guide, and call your local domestic violence agency right away. The advocates there can help you think through your choices, your safety plan, and your feelings. Even with the map in front of you, it’s comforting to have an experienced guide on your journey.