The issue of consent can be so confounding, tricky, frustrating, problematic. When explaining consent people say, “but what if?” or “but that’s not realistic in the moment.” When there’s an allegation of sexual misconduct…it’s often a ‘he said-she said’ situation. Both parties feel that they are being treated unfairly.

Why is this so hard?

Today a friend sent me an article that first  made me laugh, then made me think. It’s as good a way to explain consent as any I’ve heard. And the most important message is- it’s OK to change your mind and decide you don’t want a cup of tea after all.