The song title is Didn’t Mean It but singer Jasmine Villega means every word she sings.
You might think it’s an odd choice for an entertainer to make a music video in which she’s slapped, beaten and dragged, pleading for mercy. And you’d be even more surprised when she tells you this is her story. Now that’s courage!
Jasmine Villegas’s message at the start of her music video offers hope to other young women who are experiencing dating violence, “Never feel embarrassed or ashamed of any trials you have endured. Grow from it and never look back. You are not alone.”
And those last words are so true. In fact, one in three teens is a victim of dating violence, but only about 1/3 of those teens ever report it. And, without support to overcome the abuse, that experience can affect their future. According to the Center for Disease Control, “About 1 in 5 women and nearly 1 in 7 men who ever experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner first experienced some form of partner violence between 11 and 17 years of age.”
Learn how to recognize an abusive relationship at loveisrespect.org. They’ve got some great tools like a quick discussion on how to tell if those frequent text messages are about Checking In or Checking Up? and a quick quiz to see if you’ve been a good partner or perhaps have shown some abusive behaviors… and if so, what to do about it