Life is filled with opportunities to make a difference. Some are public and life transforming, like Antoinette Tuff’s heroic conversation that deescalated a would-be shooter in a Georgia school. Other opportunities are nestled quietly in our daily lives, the way we think, interact, and voice our values.

Here’s a video of an amazing guy, talking about women, sex, and what it means to be a friend. He challenges us to take a hard look at our social values and how they contribute to sexual violence. We all fear the masked stranger in the bushes, but most sexual assaults are committed by someone the victim knows. Or in Dylan Garrity’s words, “The stranger in the alley is real, but not as real as we are.” As  He’s redefining the Friend Zone…and what it means to be a friend.

Watch this video. It’s funny, edgy, and powerfully insightful. Dylan Garrity is a  stand up guy and a role model for what it means to be a man.

Warning, mature content…but the message at the end of the video is priceless.