Silence Hides Violence
Thank You for Caring and Having the Courage to Start a Conversation!
|Be a Friend… Break the Silence|
Starting a conversation is difficult, but if you think someone is in trouble, being controlled, abused, or dominated; speaking out is the right thing to do.
What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic Violence is a pattern of behavior used by one person to control another person in an intimate relationship through one or more tactics:
· emotional abuse/controlling behavior
· verbal abuse
· psychological abuse
· sexual control or abuse
· threatening behaviors
· economic abuse
· physical violence
What are the Signs of Domestic Violence?
· Is he/she nervous, jumpy, and walking on eggshells?
· Does he/she seem afraid of their partner or is always anxious to please the partner?
· Has he/she stopped seeing friends or family, doing the things they enjoy?
· Has he/she stopped making decisions – leavings them all up to their partner?
· Does he/she stay in constant contact with their partner throughout the day?
· Has he/she become anxious or depressed, lost their confidence and/or is unusually quiet?
· At work, is he/she often tardy, or miss work, get contacted all day by their partner, have poor concentration?
· Does he/she have any visible signs – bruises, broken bones, scratches, cuts, bite marks, other injuries (and might give unlikely explanations)?
Why People Stay in Abusive Relationships:
Some of these reasons include:
- Belief that the abuser will change, that the abuse is their fault or that it is normal
- Fear of loneliness, economic hardship, losing custody of children or fear for safety.
- Isolation from family, friends, community may leave the victim with no self-esteem and feeling that she/he has nowhere to go.
- Love and the desire to keep family together.
How you can start the conversation:
· Educate yourself about domestic violence – review DVRC’s website; call DVRC and talk with an advocate
· Tell them you care about them and are concerned about them
· Ask if they are safe
· Refer them to DVRC
· Do NOT judge their situation and their choices, blame them, give them advice or tell them what to do – it’s their choice.