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19th Annual Bartenders’ Ball Sets Record Attendance

February 9, 2016

Submitted by Maggie Fronk, Executive Director

Wellspring (DVRC)

(518) 583-0280

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

 On Saturday, February 6, over 735 community members descended upon a sold-out Saratoga Springs City Center as The Hospitality Committee of The Saratoga Chamber of Commerce hosted the Annual Bartenders’ Ball.  The annual gala featured a night of food, drinks, live music, dancing, and gaming all to the theme of ‘Fire and Ice.’

In doing so, they helped support Wellspring, which provides services to survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault in Saratoga County, by helping to raise $25,000 in support of the agency.  According to Maggie Fronk, Executive Director of Wellspring, the agency will use the funds, “to invest improve accessibility to Wellspring services for all members of the communities we serve.”

She added, “We want to thank everyone who help make the ball such a great event—the committee members who work so hard, including the people at Fine Affairs and the Holiday Inn Saratoga Springs for their exceptional work in creating a fun, vibrant theme, environment and menu, all while providing our guests with the exceptional service one expects in Saratoga County hospitality.  But most of all, we want to thank everyone who came to this event in support of the hospitality workers, as well as the mission of Wellspring—in doing so, you helped to make a difference in the lives of hundreds of local residents dealing with relationship and sexual abuse.”

This was the eighth year of a partnership between the Hospitality Committee of the Saratoga County Chamber of Commerce and Wellspring.  In 2009, Wellspring, then DVRC, partook in our first Bartenders’ Ball.  Since then, the fundraiser has raised over $180,000 in support of the agency and their clients.  Funds have been used to update many aspects of the secure shelter, which every year provides almost 3,000 safe bed nights to families in imminent danger because of domestic abuse.  The funds have also helped improve the infrastructure that supports and provides crisis intervention and support services, and access to services for members of the community who have limited or no access to transportation or technology resources.

The event was also the culmination of the annual ‘Most Valuable Bartender’ contest, as voted by members of the Saratoga County community.  This year 30 bartenders from 10 participating establishments vied for the title of MVB.  After almost 6,000 people cast their votes, the winners were announced at the Ball.  3rd Place went to Nicole from the Rusty Nail in Clifton Park, 2nd Place went to Peggy Sue from The Mill on Round Lake, and 1st Place went to Patty from The Ravenswood Pub in Clifton Park.

Now in its 19th year, the Ball has generated $500,000 for local charities, while honoring the individuals who make the $120 million/year Saratoga County hospitality industry happen.  It is also become a signature event of the local social calendar—this year’s event sold out more than a week in advance, even with the addition of extra seats.

The ball was made possible through the sponsorship of many local hospitality companies including Platinum sponsors 101.3 The Jockey, Fine Affairs, and Sysco.  DeCrescente Distributing, Saratoga Eagle Sales and Service Inc., and Southern Wine and Spirits, also supported the event through sponsorship.

Help local kids and a positive message go viral by February 12th

At Wellspring we spend a lot of time talking to youth. Why? Our vision is to end relationship and sexual abuse in our community. Crisis and support services and prevention programs are strategies to work toward that goal, but they're not enough. We also need to create social change. We need to address the underlying factors that are woven into our society, beliefs, and our policies and practices which contribute to abuse enduring. Sometimes these are so much a part of the fabric of our  lives that we don't even notice them.


Some students at the Myers Center  are helping to create that social change. They just made a video to raise awareness about Dating Violence Awareness Month... and they need your help to make the video go viral. Here's their story:


Help Myers SADD Video Go Viral by February 12

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Help the Myers SADD (Students Against Destructive Decisions) students make their video go viral by February 12. The winner will be announced in mid-February. Students who belong to the Myers SADD organization created an original video on domestic violence prevention and entered it in the #ICanDoSomething video challenge. They created a one-minute-long video that features 15 students from the F. Donald Myers Education Center.
The New York State Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence challenged New York State teens, who are between 14 and 18 years old, to create a positive video message about healthy teen dating relationships and make it go viral. 
Click here to view the video and share with everyone you know. 





Try Thai for Wellspring this Wednesday!


Here's a great way to feel terrific while supporting Wellspring. Bodyworks Professionals is offering Thai Massage sessions. Come sample a 30 minute Thai Massage and they'll your donate the proceeds to Wellspring. You'll feel like a new person, while helping others find safety and healing.



Watching

It affects 7.5 million people in the US yearly
For half the people it happens before their 25th birthday
Most of the time it's done by someone they know
It causes fear, employment concerns, some people have to move, and others fear it will never end


What is it?
Stalking


When was the last time you thought about stalking? Maybe you read about a celebrity who is being stalked by a 'fan'. Stalking is one of those things we don't think about too much until it happens to someone we care about. The sad reality is stalking is far more common than most people think. It's also highly correlated with intimate partner violence... and with intimate partner homicide.


Sometimes I'm mindlessly singing along to Sting's I'll be Watching You and I catch myself and shudder as I really listen to the words and think about the terror that stalking elicits.


Every breathe you take
And every move you make
Every bond you break
and every step you take
I'll be watching you

Every single day
And every word you say
Every game you play
And every night you stay
I'll be watching you

Oh you can' t see
You belong to me...

I'll be Watching You is often mistaken as a love song. Wikipedia reports Sting "was disconcerted by how many people think the song is more positive than it is. He insists it is about the obsession with a lost lover, and the jealousy and surveillance that follow...I think the song is very, very sinister and ugly and people have actually misinterpreted it as being a gentle little love song, when it's quite the opposite."




January is National Stalking Awareness Month


It's important to know about stalking, so you can recognize the early signs and encourage someone you know to get help tight away. Got 5 minutes? Here's a quick interactive quiz to help you better understand stalking. And here's a fact sheet for more information about stalking.



























National Drug & Alcohol Facts Week


SSCYE invites you to participate in

National Drug & Alcohol Facts Week, Jan. 25 - 31

Help educate young people about the effects and consequences of drug and alcohol use by taking part in National Drug & Alcohol Facts Week. Hosted by the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA), National Drug Facts Week takes place from Jan. 26 to 31.

In its sixth year, National Drug & Alcohol Facts Week was developed by NIDA to educate teens with science-based facts about the effects and consequences that drugs have on the brain, body, and behavior. By bringing young adults and scientific experts together with a common goal, National Drug & Alcohol Facts Week aims to shatter the myths and empower teens with the knowledge to make positive choices.

National Drug Facts WeekJoin hundreds of participants across the country, and tens of organizations and school districts in Southern Saratoga County, by getting the facts out about the risks of youth drug use.  Consider working with local youth, schools, and prevention coalitions to organize an educational event or activity for teens that delivers real, factual information about drugs and drug abuse.

Here’s how you can take part:

• Use your social media accounts to share information with your followers using the tweets provided below.  Be sure to give a “shout-out” to the Southern Saratoga County Youth Empowerment (SSCYE) Partnership by using our twitter handle, @SSCYE1.

• Plan an educational event for your community using NIDA’s step-by-step toolkit and free educational materials. More information here:  https://teens.drugabuse.gov/national-drug-alcohol-facts-week

• Register here https://www.nidachat.org/register.aspx for the Drugs & Alcohol Chat Day scheduled for Tuesday, Jan. 26th from 8 a.m. – 6 p.m., or take the National Drug & Alcohol IQ Challenge Quiz https://teens.drugabuse.gov/quiz/national-drug-facts-week/take-iq-challenge/2015

SOCIAL MEDIA MESSAGING

Marijuana

  1. A study showed people 13-38 who used marijuana regularly from teen to adulthood had a significant drop in IQ even if they quit #drugfacts
  2. Marijuana use more than doubles a driver’s risk of being in an accident. #drugfacts
  3. Early marijuana use can increase the risk of psychosis, a mental disorder where delusions and hallucinations are common symptoms #drugfacts
  4. Is Marijuana addicting? 1 in 11 youth who smoke marijuana seek treatment. #drugfacts
  5. THC in marijuana, deadens neurons in the part of the brain that’s in charge of short-term memory #drugfacts

 

Alcohol

  1. About 5,000 people under 21 die each year from injuries caused by underage drinking #drugfacts
  2. More than 4 in 10 people who begin drinking before age 15 eventually become alcoholics #drugfacts
  3. Teens who drink heavily are 3 times more likely to try to hurt themselves than those who don’t. #drugfacts
     
    Prescription Drugs

  1. In 2007, prescription pain meds were involved in more overdose deaths than heroin and cocaine combined #drugfacts
  2. Half of the young people who injected heroin in 3 recent studies started out abusing prescription drugs first #drugfacts
  3. Students who abuse Adderall are 9x more likely to use cocaine #drugfacts
     
    Tobacco

  1. Most people who start smoking in their teens become regular smokers before they’re 18 #drugfacts
  2. 1 in 3 youth smokers will eventually die from a tobacco related disease #drugfacts
  3. There are 69 human and animal carcinogens in tobacco smoke #drugfacts
  4. Tobacco use is the leading cause of preventable death causing almost half a million deaths each year, many from cancer #drugfacts

 

General

  1. The 3 drugs most often mentioned in ER visits related to drug use are cocaine, marijuana, and prescription drugs #drugfacts
  2. The drugs with the highest risk for addiction are heroin, cigarettes, and cocaine #drugfacts

Rape or Regret

Rape or Regret: YOU be the Jury

On Monday, January 11, Wellspring will be presenting their program “Rape or Regret: A Jury’s Dilemma”, at the Saratoga Springs Library in the H. Dutcher Community Room.  The program will begin at 6:30 PM.  All are invited to attend the film and mock-jury deliberation to determine the guilt of the fictional 18 year-old defendant, Ryan Kelly.

Presented as a mock trial, this film explores a case of teenage sexual assault.  As the case unfolds, the audience hears the testimony of the complainant and the defendant, their attorneys, and various witnesses.  Participants then act as the jury in determining the legal guilt or innocence of the defendant.

Wellspring advocates will then lead a discussion to help promote a better understanding of sexual assault and the challenges that exist in prosecution as well as a conversation about safe relationship practices.

Come to the Library on Monday evening and bring your teens. This is your chance to open an important conversation with them and in your community.

Check out the film’s trailer on YouTube.

Rape or Regret? A Jurys Dilemma Trailer 2012
Rape or Regret? A Jurys Dilemma Trailer

 

Clearly, It Needs to be Stated Clearly

These 10 Rape Prevention Tips may at first elicit a chuckle. But like much humor there's a truth that lingers long after the smile fades.


I'd like to think that in 2016, we don't need to remind people that victims aren't to blame for being assaulted, but judging from a Mayor's response to what the local police chief refers to as "a completely new dimension of crime", we're not there yet. Julie Zeilinger reports that in Cologne, Germany, 80 women were attacked in New Year's Eve by an estimated 100 men who collaborated in a planned gang assault on the women. Cologne's mayor responded not by detailing how the city would address such attacks, but by proposing a Code of Conduct for women to "remain at arm's length from strangers".




For years advocates have tried to reduce sexual violence by educating women about strategies to reduce their vulnerability to being a target of sexual violence (don't leave your drink unattended, don't walk alone late at night); the unintended consequence of these well-intentioned suggestions is that society's first thought is "Why wasn't she being safer when the attack happened?", instead of focusing on why the assailant attacked the victim.



So perhaps it's time to disseminate widely the 10 Rape Prevention Tips that get to the heart of the issue.

Wellspring to expand services to adult survivors of sexual assault in Washington County

For Immediate Release

December 24,2015

 

Contact: Maggie Fronk

executivedirector@wellspringcares.org

518.583.0280

 

Wellspring to expand services to adult survivors of sexual assault in Washington County.

Citing the recent decision of The Adirondack Health Institute to stop providing victim support to adult survivors of sexual assault in Washington County, Wellspring has announced that the agency will begin expanding their existing comprehensive sexual assault victim services to include  these individuals beginning December 31, 2015.

 

In response to the imminent gap in victim assistance services, Wellspring will be providing services to  adult survivors of sexual assault in Washington County, including a 24-hour hotline, accompaniment to Glens Falls Hospital for support in sexual assault forensic exams, assistance in completing applications for victim compensation from the New York State Office of Victim Services, follow up counseling and case management, and legal advocacy such as court accompaniment.

 

Noting the importance of providing comprehensive care in helping survivors of sexual assault to begin the healing process, Wellspring executive director Maggie Fronk said, “Wellspring is fully committed to not only providing an immediate response to a critical need, but will actively seek funds to provide a comprehensive response to address sexual assault in Washington County.” Fronk noted that right now Wellspring’s primary focus is insuring that victims know who to contact for support and community providers have the information to make referrals, “The Adirondack Health Institute and Wellspring have worked collaboratively to ensure that sexual assault victims will not have any gap in service. Beginning December 31st, anyone requiring assistance can call Wellspring’s hotline at 518-584-8188 for 24/7crisis or support services.”

 

Wellspring provides crisis intervention via hotline and emergency shelter, counseling, legal advocacy, comprehensive case management, support groups, and other services to over 1,000 victims of domestic violence and sexual assault in Saratoga County each year.   Additionally Wellspring believes  the best treatment is prevention, and therefore offers numerous community outreach, prevention, and issue awareness programs for schools, community and professional groups, and businesses alike.  All services are confidential and free of charge. Contact the 24-hour hotline at 518-584-8188 for assistance.

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ABOUT WELLSPRING: At Wellspring, our mission is to support survivors and engage our community to end relationship and sexual abuse.  Each year, our crisis intervention and survivor services support more than 1,000 clients—providing safe housing to adults and children either fleeing or homeless because of domestic violence, as well as comprehensive support in the form of counseling, legal advocacy, and case management.   While helping victims in need is a core focus of the agency’s mission, we know that by increasing awareness we can end intimate partner violence.  Wellspring staff provides prevention and education programs to school-aged youth, as well as training and education programs for parents, faith based congregations, and professional organizations.

 

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It Just Takes One Person to Light that Candle

Back to work today, still coated with the sparkling glitter of a family Christmas, I opened my e-mail and a friend had sent me an article he read about child abuse. His comments piqued my interest, "... a truly incredible story... his thoughts on courage towards the end of the article are inspiring." I thought, maybe this will be a good blog post, let's see.  Within a nanosecond of reading Black and Blue, and the opening words, "My father used to beat the shit out of me," that holiday glitter tarnished instantaneously and I nixed the idea of this as my first post-holiday blog entry.
 
So why just hours after returning to work from a holiday weekend am I writing about National Hockey League's Patrick Sullivan's account of his abusive childhood? Because unlike Norman Rockwell's depictions of holidays forever memorialized in 2D with with abundant feasts, loving families, and magical wonder, many of our favorite holiday stories are indeed stories of transcendence from challenges, deprivation or even evil. The true glitter of our holiday season comes from light... a light that shines from within and radiates outward.  For centuries religious traditions have glorified that light in their teaching:
  • the star of Bethlehem, leading the wise men to a savior
  • the sacred oil that miraculously burned for not one night but eight, providing hope in a time of darkness and persecution
  • the light of the new moon signaling the start of Ramadan and a commitment to self sacrifice, purification and good acts, and  
  •   a more recent addition, Kwanzaa, to celebrate the strengths,  values and heritage of people for whom community was ripped apart due to slavery and for whom safety and equality are still a daily struggle. 
Hollywood and Hallmark have managed to morph the resonant Halleluiahs  into a more enjoyable Hootenanny, but like Rudolph's blinking beacon the stories that resonate with us often explore the struggle between the darkness we all see daily and the possibility of light entering and transforming that darkness:
  • Charlie Brown (struggling for acceptance)
  • Rudolph (bullying and ostracism)
  • Miracle on 34th Street (depression, suicide), and
  • The Grinch (greed, jealously, vengeance).
So back to Patrick Sullivan and child abuse... and how in the world the story of a small child struggling desperately to be good enough, not to earn his father's love, but rather good enough to be momentarily spared from a beating at the end of the day that connects to my post holiday glow and the work of Wellspring. Sullivan's message is not for the people who are like his father- they're too far gone. His message is for the parents sitting next to him in the bleachers, for the neighbors who worry about what they hear, for the family member who wishes things were different; his message is for you and for me, and for all of us who are standing in the parking lot and can't find the courage to say something. He's telling us it's ok to make a sound. And if we do, we too may find that our small quivering voice will be joined by others resonating throughout Whoville with  true light. I recently read a quote from a security consultant who formerly worked in law enforcement and the Secret Service, "You don't rise to the occasion; you sink to your level of training." he was talking about violent intruder situations, but I think his observation holds equally true as we're watching our kid's hockey practice. I imagine Sullivan at 5 years old wearing his first pair of hockey skates. Now I'd like to imagine how different his life would have been if someone- anyone- would have spoken up. Read his story, imagine what you wish someone would have  done. And maybe when the chance presents itself you or I will be ready with a better response.


Wellspring provides prevention education to approximately 6,000 youth and adults each year. A core value in our prevention education is empowering bystanders to take action  to intervene when they see a situation, but also to create social change to end relationship and sexual abuse. If you're interested in learning more about how you can bring these no-cost, interactive programs to your youth group, faith organization, workplace or other group give us a call at 518-583-0280.
 
 
 
 
 
 






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